I don't know how to write this memorial to Dan, there is nothing I can say that in anyway seems adequate but what I do know is that all that should be said about him must be said and remembered. He deserves that from all of us at least. I have experienced three premature deaths in my life and what marks them out irrespective of the deep grief and shock we feel is the loss of the future and its impact over the lifetimes of those left behind.The death of a loved one who has lived a long life is one thing, but to loose someone who is young and living a full and vibrant life is quite another and especially difficult to bear. Having read and re-read all the tributes about Dan my spirits simultaneously rise at all the wonderful things that have been expressed and fall at the prospect of the years without him in our lives. Without doubt he loved his family deeply and was a genuinely nice, kind, decent, funny man who enriched the lives of those who knew him and was deeply loved in return. He will never be forgotten and Ken and I will remember and keep him in our hearts forever. My personal resolve and memorial to Dan is this: to remember him with love and thankfulness to be more generous, kinder and helpful to others to be more forgiving to say 'I love you' more often and learn how to give big hugs to always be grateful for the love he gave my daughter, to remember how happy they were together and for the golden child he left in our care to strengthen our small family and support Marie to be a better person #bemoredan I have a gentle memory of Dan that always makes me smile. I remember giving him a 'nappy changing' tutorial shortly after Ayesha and Joy arrived home from hospital and recollect his enthusiasm and determination to undertake this less than edifying task. There were more wipes, cotton wool and bits and pieces scattered around than could be counted in his attempts to change his baby. He did it, did it well and continued throughout to take a full and active role in her upbringing. And then there were the fish pies........... He was a special person, a wonderful young man. His was a good life. Finally, I want to thank the Critical Care Unit at the Northern General Hospital. They were tireless in their attempts to save him and exemplified the NHS at its absolute best. All that could have been done was done unflinchingly, with great professionalism and care. I will never forget their dedication and resolve. You will always be with us Dan xxxxxx Judith and Ken